Should, I stop drinking or learn how to control my drinking?

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This is a question I have been asked by the clients I have helped with alcohol issues every day of my life for over twenty two years.

 

The men and women who buy my on-line program ‘7 Days To Drink Less’ do so because they secretly hope they can learn to drink less. Often this hope is accompanied by a niggling thought that they should stop drinking all together.

 

Those who face the dilemma of how to drink less alcohol may also question whether reducing alcohol consumption is possible and the answer is a resounding ‘yes.’

 

The secret is you have to learn to change your thinking before you drink. You may ask how this is possible when you have tried to control your drinking in the past without success.

 

If you have tried to consciously to stop drinking or reduce your alcohol consumption with limited success, it simply means the emotional part of your unconscious mind doesn’t understand what you want to achieve.

 

The unconscious mind is where all your emotional habits are stored and one of its most important goals is to protect you against feeling vulnerable. Here are a few of the varying reasons why you may be using alcohol to cope with life. Are you using alcohol as a tool to feel better about your self or to de-stress and relax? Or are you drinking to entertain yourself when you are bored or do you use it to help you sleep? If you can relate to any of these reasons then they may be part of your drinking pattern and if so then your unconscious mind will continue to respond this way.

 

If your conscious mind and your unconscious mind have differing opinions about how to deal with life, then the unconscious mind will always win the argument. Hence when people say they don’t have any willpower to drink less then the good news is it has nothing to do with willpower. However, it has everything to do with the unhelpful alcohol coping strategies you have unconsciously developed which have become habitual. If you are pent up and angry then drinking alcohol may become your unconscious way of dealing with or dampening down these emotions. Or you may feel anxious about a social occasion and need a sneaky drink to bolster your confidence.

 

This is where the health benefits of hypnosis step in as it assists you in your desire to stop drinking or to reduce alcohol consumption. Hypnosis is a beneficial tool, which can help you succeed with your goal to drink less.

 

Some people may feel hesitant about experiencing hypnosis but I can assure you it is one of the most successful and easiest ways to make emotional changes. The most successful sports people in the world use hypnosis because it is a quick and comfortable way to improve their thinking strategies.

 

Some of my clients express concern about whether they are alcoholics or are worried about their binge drinking. These men and women are often anxious people. Anxiety is a fundamental aspect of why so many people find it hard to cut back on their drinking. They want to reduce their drinking but are fearful they won’t be able to stop drinking once they have that first glass. This fear can lead from drinking the first glass or two, to three or more. Then they fret that their internal button to stop drinking isn’t there. So even before they have their first drink they are feeling scared and worried they will drink too much. This then causes the vicious cycle of being scared to drink and then drinking to run away from this terrible fear. This drinking anxiety is a battle between the conscious and the unconscious mind, which can be extremely emotionally painful.

 

‘The 7 Days To Drink Less’ is beneficial in assisting in the reduction of alcohol consumption because it helps you understand how your unconscious mind often plays with your conscious mind. And the best part is all you need to do is relax and enjoy the journey to a healthier and happier you.

 

Hypnosis calms both your mind and body, and allows your conscious mind to drift then as this happens your unconscious mind becomes more open to changing its learnt behavioural patterns and emotional responses.

 

‘The 7 Days to Drink Less’ is made up of 10 powerful hypnotic recordings in combination with life changing psychology technique called Inner Dialogue. These amazing techniques can help you to drink less by alleviating your fears, whether it is the need to stop drinking or simply to cut back on your alcohol consumption.

 

The first day is free. So sign up now and you’ll be on your way to drinking less and discovering a healthier, happier, confident and positive you.

Need a more fertile mind to get pregnant?

Thinking Fertile Mind

When women are trying to get pregnant, there is a mountain of information on what to eat, how to eat and what supplements to take to prepare the body for pregnancy, but what about support for the mind?

Women all around the world, who are trying to conceive, know exactly what to eat and how to look after their body.  In fact, they have mastered it, in the hope that they have done absolutely everything they can to increase their chances.

However, many find themselves feeling isolated and emotionally anxious because they just can’t understand why they cannot get pregnant, when their friends are.

It’s easy for others to say ‘it will happen when you forget about it’ and I always say that is a big feat to someone who is desperate to be a parent.  I find it can also be insulting too.

I know myself, after trying to conceive in my 40’s, the boom doom gloom the IVF doctors kept banging on about.  It could have been devastating if I believed them, but keeping myself sane and trusting in my own body and mind, stopped me from absorbing all this negativity.

That is why I specialise in fertility and helping you with a fertile mind – because I get it!  I walk my talk and know that during this challenging time you need as much emotional support as possible to keep you strong!

The mind manages the bodily functions without much conscious awareness. When women feel anxious and fearful about life, the bloodstream goes first, to the important organs such as heart and lungs, in preparation for something we may need to run from.  And guess where it goes to last?  The womb.  Why?  It’s a very primitive mechanism that the brain implements when there is a presumed unhealthy environment to conceive.  You could liken this to when an animal knows that a drought is about to occur.  It has been proven that the animal’s reproductive system shuts down so the female species can try and survive without trying to look after little ones.

Human beings have the same instinctive receptors, so if a woman is worried about getting pregnant she maybe emotionally unconsciously restricting her chances.  One could argue then, why are babies born in emotionally abusive situations and yes, I would agree.  But why not make the chances of pregnancy even better by looking after the emotional aspect too – not just the body.

It doesn’t matter the history of or the issues with fertility, that is the past.  However, this is part of the problem.  When someone is trying to get pregnant, the mind can use the fertility history or unhelpful evidence to suggest that it might not or will not happen!

Nobody knows the future so when these unhelpful references are there, it’s no surprise women can become fearful about their ability to get pregnant and self doubt can creep in.

However, the mind can learn to prepare for the future by creating healthier references that reflect outcomes that have nothing to do with past fertility issues.

In other words, the history of fertility moments cannot forecast the future.  The good news is, with particular mind tools training, women trying to conceive, whether naturally or with medical intervention, can start to shift their thinking into a healthier and more optimistic state.

I am not suggesting for one moment that going through IVF will be a breeze but what I am suggesting is a little bit of hope, trust and seeing the future positively will help calm the mind, which then calms the body.  It’s a win/win situation.

So you may be asking now if I did get pregnant?  The answer yes, I have triplet boys Ollie, Finn and Hugh now 3 years of age.  The doctor’s didn’t believe I could do it but I did! Having a fertile mind helps.

My Fertility program can be purchased at www.georgiafoster.com. $39.97.

How much are you spending on Booze?

Have a Drinking Problem?

Women who cut down on their alcohol intake by two glasses of wine a week could save that money and pay for a holiday for two says Georgia Foster, an Alcohol Reduction Expert. The expert who helps people to cut down on their drinking with her 7 Days To Drink Less Program has said that not only will women be able to save money; they will feel healthier by reducing their alcohol intake.

With the stress of long working hours, economic problems, and busy day-to-day lives, a lot of women are drinking more than the recommended amount in the USA. That can lead to serious health problems and even financial problems.

One woman who has launched a program to help women to drink less and achieve better health is World Renowned Alcohol Reduction Expert Georgia Foster. The expert who is often seen in the media and works all over the world believes women should look at reducing their alcohol intake in a new light. She says ‘if women cut down on their drinking by two glasses of wine a week, they could afford a romantic holiday with their loved one after 52 weeks.’

The Alcohol Reduction Expert has said for many years now people have been told to cut down on their drinking for health reasons, and although it’s important to cut down for better health, many women are bored with being dictated to.

According to Georgia Foster, women need a real incentive to cut down on their drinking, and by showing women if they cut down by two drinks a week, they could afford a romantic break, which could be the incentive they need.

Georgia Foster, who is author and hypnotherapist expert, helps women all over the world reduce their alcohol intake with her 7 Days To Drink Less program. The program allows people who understand they drink too much but struggle to cut down, achieve their goals.

She said: “A lot of people who drink more than they should do so due the stress of modern life understand they should cut down for better health, but they need an incentive. By allowing them to work out the cost of two drinks a week, and how much they would save over 52 weeks, it would allow them to see they could pay for a romantic break with their loved one. As well as showing them they will save money, it’s also a way to encourage them to cut down on drinking for a healthier lifestyle.”

The proven 7 Days To Drink Less program has received worldwide media attention due to its success rate in helping men and women reduce their alcohol intake. By reducing the amount people drink, they will have better control over their lives while feeling healthier.

Anxiety & The Booze!

Get Back On Top of Your Life! Knock Alcohol and Anxiety

I had an American client some years ago, who came to see me about her drinking.  She was and still is a very high profile board member of an international corporation.  As she spent a lot of time in London, she said she had become accustomed to the British drinking culture and felt concerned that her one bottle of wine a night was starting to creep up to open up the second bottle and drinking half of that too.

Her life in New York was pretty similar, where her ‘Sex in the City’ lifestyle was, she felt, starting to catch up with her.  So by the time she came to see me she was in a very negative state.

Whenever she was in London she would book an appointment.  On her last appointment she told me how she was really enjoying having alcohol free days more often.  She said her self esteem had dramatically improved, however the one thing that she recognised is that she drank because she was anxious.

As I have always said drinking can mask anxiety until you wake in the morning and it can come back to bite you! Alcohol and anxiety do not mix.

However, as my client had successfully reduced her drinking, this got her thinking that she wanted to work on what drove the anxiety.

There was something she said that has ‘forever resonated with me which I would like to share with you’.

She said that in Britain we have a pub on every corner, in America we have a pharmacy on ever corner! She then went on to say that most of her friends were not big drinkers but most of them were on some sort of anti-depressant to alleviate anxiety and general low self worth.

So my point is that we are all susceptible to anxiety and how we deal with it culturally can be different but I can assure you that alcohol and medication are both great ways to escape fears and self doubts about life.

Some would suggest medication is socially more acceptable because it is easier to mask but I think that what is key to anxiety is understanding the thinking behind it before it takes hold and becomes a habit.

As I always say it’s the thinking that drives people to do things in a repetitive way such as medication, alcohol, sleep and often just good old depression.

The problem is we i.e. Americans, British, Australians, people from all over the world suffer from challenging thoughts and we must start to communicate these fears before addictive behaviour takes hold.

We need to hold our heads high and acknowledge that life can be an absolute nightmare sometimes but if we share our negative thinking and fears it really does help.

Anxiety is a curse for many people and can become a way of thinking and life but it shouldn’t be.

So try my 7 days To Drink Less to reduce your drinking which will reduce your anxiety.  Or if alcohol is not your issue, try The Calm Confident You program.  Both are life changing.

Inspiring Others To Drink Less

How To Inspire Others To Drink Less and Cut Down Drinking

I’ve just spent over an hour being interviewed for a story about my history of drinking along with my love life and fertility issues.

Some of you may know that I started drinking heavily when I was 19. At the time I was dating an older guy, he was 30. I learned very early on that drinking a lot alleviated my insecurities around his friends. They were all doctors and nurses and I at that stage of my life hadn’t figured out what I wanted to do professionally. I was working as a secretary, now known as a personal assistant and felt very unfulfilled because I had such high achievers around me.

When I look back now I realise how insecure I was and my low self esteem was so bad that I actually thought without alcohol I was boring, uninteresting and dumb.

It didn’t help that my best friend was a very successful model. Even Rod Stewart hounded her at a night club once and she was constantly bombarded with men trying to get her attention. I on the other hand, slightly plump, Greek looking with a Greek name called Georgia was too foreign looking. Not that I had anything against being Greek it was more the point that I wasn’t the Blonde Aussie girl which was all the rage.

So going on from there my boyfriend and I broke up, I had a string of very unhelpful relationships where I was criticised anywhere from being not blonde enough, slim enough or clever enough.

By the time I came to London at the age of 28 I was really excited about starting a new life here after studying Voice Dialogue Psychology in California.

I started working in an investment bank and then my drinking really did get out of control. Often one of my bosses would sign my time sheet and then take me out drinking all afternoon and I became known as the Aussie Drinker!

I ended up in some pretty compromising situations from waking up with one of the bankers who I had to face the next day to waking up with a half eaten Big Mac next to me, not remembering how I got home.

My drinking heavily continued into my 30’s with dire consequences emotionally and psychically. But I had my tipping point, and through my own work discovered a new way of thinking, a new way of reducing how I drank and what I thought about myself.

My life has really turned around since the heavy drinking days, I have a thriving business that genuinely changes lives, a loving partner and 3 beautiful children. I don’t say this stuff to brag, the reason I am happy to share my story is to offer hope to anyone who has faced similar trials, to inspire people to take back control of their lives. You can turn it around, you can change your thinking.

Can You Share Your Drink Less Mind Story?

I am often approached by journalists asking me if I have, ‘a client that is willing to talk about their story’. I feel uncomfortable but understand the need to do so in order to spread the word about the Drink Less Mind and to inspire other to drink less and to cut down drinking. The Drink Less Mind is a deeply personal experience and is 100% confidential but I do know that some people are happy to share their journey. If you are someone who can help, please do let me know. Journalists are particularly keen for people who are happy to be named, interviewed and photographed. You never know, your story could inspire someone to face their demons. Contact me via email or the contact form on this website and I will personally respond.

Speak soon

Georgia x

Please visit my 7 Days To Drink Less Program for details how to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink

 

Exposing The Myths Around Alcohol Measurements

I took the opportunity to speak my mind about the myths around alcohol measurements

As you know, being an Australian who has travelled the world and settled in London, England, I have a great understanding of the subtle (and sometimes obvious) differences & similarities in cultures and people. So when I was recently interviewed by some Australian press about, ‘What is a standard glass?’ I took the opportunity to speak my mind!

I was horrified that the scaremongering that I witness in the UK is also rife in my home country.

So this is what I said which is completely factual. Please see below:

Doctors recommend for women 14 units per week, which is around two bottles of wine and for men 21 units (unit is 125 glass of wine). However, some people may not know that the unit measurement is not based on any medical evidence but rather was suggested as a guideline as to how people should drink.

The Medical Association came together and decided that like calorie counting people needed a form of guidance on how to drink less. It is believed that people are embarrassed to disclose to their doctor how much they drink per week.

As a form of alcohol education the Medical Association decided that as a general rule this seemed to be true and so decided to reduce limits by three times. However, for many sticking to those measurements can be challenging and I believe you can learn to drink more safely by pacing yourself, so that the liver has time to process the alcohol. This is why binge drinking is a problem. The body and brain has difficulty dealing with large quantities of alcohol at the same time.

There are two types of drinkers: The social and the emotional. The social drinker, drinks purely for fun and social interaction. This type of drinker can have a few glasses of booze but unless they are in a social situation they wouldn’t think of drinking.

The people that The Drink Less Mind treats are the emotional drinkers. They don’t belong in AA but are secretly concerned about their drinking. They use alcohol as a stress management tool to deal with the challenges of life. This is when problem drinking can occur.

Another important point to make is that someone who uses alcohol as a way to relax and de-stress will over a period of time become more tolerant to that first glass. Therefore they will need more alcohol to get that same feeling of stress release. So it comes as no surprise that this form of alcohol consumption can lead to an increase and this is a concern.

The 7 Days To Drink Less program deals with the underlying issues as to what is driving someone to drink more than they want to and how to feel less stressed. The net effect is their emotional thought patterns change to a healthier way to think and feel about their life. This way they can learn a more positive coping strategy to what life brings them.

The Drink Less Mind is not for alcoholics but rather for people who recognize their drinking behaviour interferes with their lives in a negative way.

The domino effect of emotional heavy drinking can become habitual. The result of this type of drinking can lead to anxiety, depression, low self esteem, sexual and social problems as well as weight gain and other health issues.

On another note I took my mother out for her birthday and we shared the most delicious bottle of Californian wine. I love the stuff but it is so difficult to find here in London and also expensive.

My point here is there is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing a bottle of wine or more on a special occasion without guilt. This sort of drinking does not cause concern. So let’s band together and wave to those who drink for pleasure and support those who drink for emotional reasons and stop making them feel bad.

I believe these people have a thinking problem not a drinking problem.

Please visit my 7 Days To Drink Less Program for details how to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink

Young People, Self Esteem Issues and Links To Alcohol

Teenage Drinking

Teaching young people to have true self confidence can help them deal with bullying, sexual harassment, gender issues, social anxieties as well as being assertive and having a voice when necessary.

Over the years I have had the privilege of helping teenagers with self esteem issues. I always say and will say again here in this blog that self esteem is something we need to learn. We are not born with it. Irritatingly it doesn’t seem to be taught in schools either.

Young people are particularly shocked when I tell them this, as they assume everyone else is more attractive, more clever and interesting than they are.

I feel very passionate about helping the younger generation basically to help them avoid some of the pitfalls of life. Obviously there are many situations in life that are unfortunately necessary for the young to go through, however there are many situations that can be avoided or managed much better.

Teaching young people to have true self confidence can help them deal with bullying, sexual harassment, gender issues, social anxieties as well as being assertive and having a voice when necessary.

It makes me sad when I hear of young people with lots of hopes and dreams who feel the need to drink alcohol to excess and take drugs to fit in. One of my 19 year old clients told me last month that it was expected amongst her peers to take cocaine and drink alcohol to the point of oblivion. Both these actions she wasn’t happy to do but felt obliged to say yes to stay with the ‘in crowd’.

My heart sank when she also told me what was expected of her sexually too. Such a lovely girl and already feeling unsure of herself to the point that she has to say yes when she wants to say no.

And all of this type of coercing between her so called friends was with the influence of alcohol and drugs.

My lovely young client is a beautiful and talented girl who deserves to like herself and embrace the true wondrous being she is. That is what is great about my work – I help people feel the sensations of calm and confidence while still remaining humble and intuitive.

My thoughts now being a new mother myself as to how to raise my triplet boys so they have confidence and courage to stand up for themselves is there daily. So seeing young clients even more so now fills my heart with a drive to help this age bracket more.

As you know I don’t profess to be teetotal in fact not at all and I always say having a hangover now and again is completely acceptable as far as I am concerned. However some of my young clients who are 16 are drinking a hell of a lot of alcohol and this is a worry.

A doctor once told me that when a child starts drinking excessive alcohol in their teenage years the brain hasn’t fully developed at this stage. In other words the brain cannot deal with too much alcohol and addictions can start to appear. Teenage drinking is a real problem. The main culprit of this is not feeling good enough and alcohol can give that instant fix (as it does with adults too) to feel better.

I know in Europe children are given small amounts of wine with their meal to learn how to drink in a paced way which I think is the logical way of educating the young to drink alcohol.

I know for a fact that children who are told alcohol is bad and evil tend to want to drink it as a form of rebellion and fascination, which can end up in disaster for the child and the family. I am not suggesting I have the answers but I can clearly see how alcohol dependency can occur. It just takes a few self esteem issues as a teenager and a little bit of alcohol mixed in there to gain pseudo confidence and then an emotional habit occurs. On a lighter note, I am cooking a red Thai curry tonight for Ian and myself. I am getting myself prepared for the night feeds for my 3 month old boys, so no wine for me!

Enjoy your day and I look forward to writing another blog soon x

Please visit my 7 Days To Drink Less Program for details how to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink

Top Tips To Cut Back On Alcohol In The Evening

I enjoy nothing better than a glass of Sancerre when my partner gets
home from work around 7pm and the nights we have a night nanny are the
nights I can relax and have some more if I feel like it.

My exciting situation at the moment got me thinking about parents and people that come back from work and have a drink or two. This is fine, but sometimes you may feel you want to cut back on alcohol in the evening and this blog is designed to help you think about that.

I am if you didn’t know a well-practised Aussie drinker who lives in London and after having triplet boys 12 weeks ago, I am actually just starting to enjoy a little glass of wine again. Celebrating my birthday last weekend proved to be a little more wine related than it has been!

I enjoy nothing better than a glass of Sancerre when my partner gets home from work around 7pm and the nights we have a night nanny are the nights I can relax and have some more if I feel like it.

Even my mother-in-law who doesn’t normally drink has been having a glass with me, so I guess that says a lot about looking after triplet baby boys all day!

When It Becomes Time To Cut Back On Alcohol In The Evening

I know a lot of you are ‘stay at home mums’ or even people who go out to work but talk about ‘The Wine O’Clock’ time that kicks in once the kids have gone to bed. I do understand this and in fact I get it now big time being a new mother myself. It is always the same theme for me, as for other mothers too, where it is a way to spend adult time where I feel I can be less responsible and more of an individual person rather than a mother.

To anybody who resonates with this blog, you will know that there are times when having wine after the kids have gone to bed seems like the only way to find some sort of reprieve.

Issues Caused By Too Much Alcohol In The Evening

And I can assure you there is nothing wrong with it in principal, however if it starts to creep up too much in quantity there are a number of issues that can become apparent such as:

·       Alcohol related tiredness. This is caused by fitful sleeping, toxins, REM sleep pattern not being there as long.

·       Anxiety, due to the toxins leaving the body as well as the exhaustion.

·       Feeling angry, this is due to tiredness, as well as the frustration of being angry at yourself for drinking too much and not feeling in control of the drinking.

·       Guilty mother syndrome. The guilt of wanting to drink to run away from being the responsible mother.

For those of you who are aware that this sort of drinking is causing you concern, I can assure you after being in this ‘drink less’ business for 19 years the issues are common and normal but can be unhelpful to your health and emotional wellbeing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to run away from life by drinking too much now and again but if it becomes your daily stress management tool, following are some tips to help alleviate the drive to drink when you know you don’t want to and so therefore, help you cut back on alcohol.

Top Tips To Cut Back On Alcohol

As much as it can be challenging, think about doing something different in the evenings once the kids have gone to bed. For example:

·       If you decide to do computer work such as surfing the net or facebooking and you enjoy a glass or two with this experience, put the glass of alcohol on the other side of the keyboard or in other words, use your non-dominant hand to drink from and the other have a glass of water handy.

·       If you are watching TV, make a conscious effort to put the glass of alcohol down between sips or even better keep putting your glass in another room so you have to keep getting up to drink it.

·       If you decide to not drink at all, prepare yourself in advance by keeping yourself busy, such as reading a book or watching that movie you planned to watch ages ago.

·       Generally people will have a threshold of when it is too late to have a drink, whether it is just after a meal or some say any time after 9pm or 10pm when it feels too late. Stretch this time out by just doing something different.

The more you do this the more your mind will assume this new behaviour to be true.

I have found just subtle changes in your drinking approach will help you cut back on alcohol.

Keep practising!

Speak soon.

Georgia

Please visit my 7 Days To Drink Less Program for details how to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink

Let’s Talk About Anxiety

Anxiety is a curse for many people and can become a way of thinking and life but it shouldn’t be

Wow what a challenging subject anxiety is for so many people.

I had an American client some years ago, who came to see me about her drinking.  She was and still is a very high profile board member of an international corporation.  As she spent a lot of time in London, she said she had become accustomed to the British drinking culture and felt concerned that her one bottle of wine a night was starting to creep up to open up the second bottle and drinking half of that too.

Her life in New York was pretty similar, where her ‘Sex in the City’ lifestyle was, she felt, starting to catch up with her.  So by the time she came to see me she was in a very negative state.

Whenever she was in London she would book an appointment.  On her last appointment she told me how she was really enjoying having alcohol free days more often.  She said her self esteem had dramatically improved, however the one thing that she recognised is that she drank because she was anxious.

As I have always said drinking can mask anxiety until you wake in the morning and it can come back to bite you!

However, as my client had successfully reduced her drinking, this got her thinking that she wanted to work on what drove the anxiety.

There was something she said that has ‘forever resonated with me which I would like to share with you’.

She said that in Britain we have a pub on every corner, in America we have a pharmacy on ever corner! She then went on to say that most of her friends were not big drinkers but most of them were on some sort of anti-depressant to alleviate anxiety and general low self worth.

So my point is that we are all susceptible to anxiety and how we deal with it culturally can be different but I can assure you that alcohol and medication are both great ways to escape fears and self doubts about life.

Some would suggest medication is socially more acceptable because it is easier to mask but I think that what is key to anxiety is understanding the thinking behind it before it takes hold and becomes a habit.

As I always say it’s the thinking that drives people to do things in a repetitive way such as medication, alcohol, sleep and often just good old depression.

The problem is we i.e. Americans, British, Australians, people from all over the world suffer from challenging thoughts and we must start to communicate these fears before addictive behaviour takes hold.

We need to hold our heads high and acknowledge that life can be an absolute nightmare sometimes but if we share our negative thinking and fears it really does help.

Anxiety is a curse for many people and can become a way of thinking and life but it shouldn’t be.

So for any of you who feel anxiety has become a bit of an issue please check my Calm Confident You program

Motivation – Winter or Summer

Have a look at the week ahead and slice it up into days/nights so you
can see for yourself what windows of time you have to decide on an
alcohol free day.

We’ve had a couple of very snowy days here in London. People are not venturing out and I don’t blame them. It seems from emails I am receiving from clients in the UK that while winter is so clearly here that staying at home or sitting by the fire of a beautiful old pub is very attractive!

For those clients who are in the warmer regions of the world, the summer is proving hot and that there is nothing better than a cold glass of sauvignon blanc or a beer to consume at the end of the day. It seems it is too hot to be motivated to do anything. Speaking of motivation: A very good friend of mine called me this morning in a bit of a flap because she had ordered the latest boot camp in a bottle meal replacement program that is apparently all the rage this year and it hadn’t arrived after a week.

This friend of mine is desperate to lose weight since her Christmas and New Year binge of food and alcohol.

My friend is a very organised and savvy person who knows her retail rights. She gave them a bit of grief when they told her that the product due to huge demand wouldn’t be available for another 3 weeks! She was horrified as she felt that they had mislead her obviously along with others and that her hopes to be well on her way to being slimmer and happier with herself by now wasn’t going to happen.

I told her I completely agreed with her but as we went further into the conversation I realised that my friend had put all her hopes into this miracle weight loss program and was at a loss at what to do next.

She said that she is now so angry all she wants to do is go to the pub and sit by the fire and get drunk. This is the problem with Perfectionists and Anger. If one thing doesn’t go to plan then the binge mentality can kick in so easily and the best made plans just go out the window.

How is it that our mind stirs such feelings of not being in control when in actual fact just like in my friends situation it is way beyond her control. This is when the ‘Let down button’ get pressed and the mind starts to play negative games and takes things way to personally. Inner conversations such as ‘Why did that happen to me?’ or ‘What is the point, nothing ever goes my way,’ or ‘I’ve blown my chance now to be healthier so I may as well be a glutton until the product arrives.’

So if you are finding yourself in this situation or a similar one ask yourself a few questions:

·       Why does it have to be perfect before I get on with my life?

·       Why do I want to hurt myself more by binge eating and drinking because one thing hasn’t gone my way?

·       Who said I had do it perfectly before I can get it right?

The problem with waiting for a perfect moment to arise to start your healthy regime will ultimately cause you more stress because perfect moments just don’t come by that often.

So have a look at the week ahead and slice it up into days/nights so you can see for yourself what windows of time you have to decide on an alcohol free day or go for that swim or make that tasty vegetable soup?

Realise that these strong small steps are all your mind needs to learn that you are becoming healthier and happier with you. Don’t suffocate with procrastination it will only make you feel less in control.

Some days it just isn’t going to work because that is life but that is the point, this is your life and being Perfect just doesn’t cut with me but rather can cause more self abuse and unhappiness.

My Recommendation:

Write down in a diary or on your computer – in fact anywhere a plan to do one thing differently this week that will inspire you. Something that represents a strong small step towards looking after yourself.

Have a good rest of January.

Warm regards,

Georgia

Please visit my 7 Days To Drink Less Program for details how to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink