For anybody who is in Brad’s situation, or similar, will resonate with ‘burying your head in the sand’ life.
It can only last for so long before the bubble bursts and the reality hits that drinking doesn’t fix anything – it can make it worse.
The old fashioned, tick the box father approach that Brad admits to; such as being a good provider, working hard and being a man of not many words, is by no means the role model he now wishes to adhere to.
And there is a really good reason why. We need to teach our children that communication doesn’t come after a few beers or a bottle of wine. We need to physically demonstrate to our children that we don’t give more kisses and cuddles just because ‘my mum or dad’ has wine on their breath. We need to honour that drinking alcohol, as a way to being more open and warm, is not the pre-cursor to becoming a better and more loving parent.
The irony of this type of ‘distant parenting’ is that it leads to more guilt about not being able to be a great sober communicator. The cycle of heavy drinking/guilt gets stronger and becomes a bigger problem than it actually needs to be.
Sad but true, many men and women are drinking more alcohol than is healthy, not because they want to but because it makes them feel emotionally more safe.
It’s been proven by many neuroscientists that alcohol shuts down the critical and judgmental part of the brain. In other words, alcohol is a really good quick fix to shut out negative thoughts and feelings about the fears of life.
Brad, like many people who get themselves into a drinking rut, are not necessarily alcoholics but emotional drinkers. Their brain has wired itself to alcohol as a habit of how to deal with fearful emotions, thoughts and feelings.
In order for someone to have a healthier relationship with alcohol they need to train their brain to have a healthier, sober relationship with themselves first.
That is why my seminars and on-line program sell all over the world.
I believe it is ‘your thinking, not your drinking that is the problem.’
You’ve got to train the brain to have healthier coping strategies without a glass of wine/beer or whatever in hand. The domino effect is better coping strategies, less anxiety and improved sober self esteem.
No-one enjoyed a big night out as much as I did, especially in my twenties.
A few drinks at a friend’s house before heading to our favourite pubs and clubs easily outweighed the cost you had to pay with the following day’s hangover.
But by the time I reached my thirties, the balance had shifted — and those hangovers just weren’t worth it anymore.
When I quit drinking, I still went out with my friends, and guess what? I still had a great time telling the same stupid stories we’d always told, singing the same dumb songs at the top of our lungs we always had, and doing the same stupid things we’d always done.
The only difference was I felt great the next day, and as an added bonus I hadn’t spent a small fortune to willingly make myself sick.
YOU’LL DISCOVER A MORE CONFIDENT SELF
Drinking gives you a false confidence, and for many people it can seem like the only confidence they have.
We say and do things after a few drinks that we wouldn’t dream of when sober, and this bravado naturally feels quite liberating and attractive to people.
But when you quit drinking you start to discover who you really are, what you want, what you enjoy and who you want to be, without the constant switching between drunk and sober states of mind.
With this self-discovery comes a confidence you may not have had, or had kept locked up while your “Dutch courage” took centre stage.
This confidence is far more attractive and constructive than anything you can get from a bottle.
TIME BECOMES YOUR FRIEND
One of the side effects of drinking that irritated me the most was the amount of time and productivity lost.
Sleeping until midday after a big night out is a waste, and the amount of time it takes to recover gets longer and longer with age.
A massive Saturday night often meant being tired and lethargic until Wednesday, as my body played catch up on the rest it needed.
I may have slept for 12 hours after a big night, but my body certainly wasn’t at rest.
Think of all the things you can do with the extra time and energy you’ll have when you quit drinking.
You’ll be more productive at work, spend more time with family and friends, increase your focus on health and fitness, join a class or even start a hobby you’ve been putting off … The possibilities are only limited by your imagination.
YOU WILL HAVE WORRIED ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK FOR NOTHING
The truth is people won’t actually care that much. All that time spent worrying about the grilling you’ll get, or how friends might drift away because socialising and drinking go hand in hand will have been a waste of time.
My friends didn’t care one bit, and have been incredibly supportive.
Strangers ask more questions than friends do, partly because they’re shocked that anyone can quit drinking and partly because they want to do the same and have many questions to ask.
I never instigate discussions about quitting drinking, it’s not my place to tell people what they should and shouldn’t do.
But when you’re drinking mineral water at a party the inevitable questions come, and I’m happy to share my experiences with them.
WHY DID YOU WAIT SO LONG TO QUIT?
All of the worries and concerns you have from the time you decide to stop drinking, to when you actually do, evaporate soon after you quit.
It took me four years to quit drinking, and now that I have it seems crazy to me that it took me so long.
Like many things in life, as soon as we do something that has a positive effect on our world, we wonder why we didn’t do it earlier, and for me quitting alcohol is one of them.
I want to make it perfectly clear that I thoroughly enjoyed the time I spent going out and enjoying myself during my youth.
Some of my favourite memories are the times I’ve been at home or somewhere around the world having a night out on the drink with family and friends. I wouldn’t trade them in for anything.
Nevertheless, there came a point in my early 30s where I knew my time was up, but for some reason I kept going for another four years.
That was a mistake. I should have quit when I first realised I just wasn’t enjoying it anymore.
These are the experiences I had when I quit drinking alcohol.
For you it might be totally different. After all, your relationship with alcohol may be totally different to mine, and your personal life is probably different as well.
I don’t begrudge anyone who enjoys a drink, and if you have it under control, it’s not having a negative impact on anyone else in your life, and you still enjoy it, then carry on as far as I’m concerned.
But if you’ve come to realise your drinking days are nearing the end, and the physical, mental and financial costs of drinking far outweigh any positives, then I encourage you to quit today. It will be the best decision you’ll ever make.
Drinking Alcohol While Taking Antibiotics What Is The Real Story
When people go to the Doctor and receive Antibiotics one of the most popular questions they ask themselves is, can I drink alcohol with Antibiotics? So, after being asked this many times, I decided to write a blog post and help people understand why it is not a great idea to drink alcohol while taking tablets.
When Doctors recommend to their patients, they should not drink alcohol with medication a lot of those patients ignore that advice. However, in reality, alcohol and antibiotics are a dangerous mix and patients should listen to their Doctor.
So, why do Doctors tell their patients they should not mix alcohol with Antibiotics, the answer is simple really, not only can alcohol interfere with the medication doing its job, but drinking alcohol while taking antibiotics can cause unsafe side effects.
Can I take antibiotics with alcohol?
Despite popular belief drinking alcohol while taking antibiotics does not make the medication any less effective. However, drinking alcohol while taking antibiotics can make the side effects worse.
The side effects that can be caused by taking antibiotics will depend on what medication is being taken, but the common side effects include:
Alcohol can cause side effect that includes:
Digestive problems, such as stomach pain, diarrhoea, and ulcers
When you combine alcohol with antibiotics, it can make the symptoms worse and at time unbearable. There are drugs that are more prone to serious side effects that other antibiotics when drinking alcohol; these include trimethoprim/ sulfamethoxazole and metronidazole.
The side effects can include:
Increased or irregular heartbeat
Nausea and vomiting
There are other antibiotics that can cause the patient problems when drinking alcohol; these include co-trimoxazole, linezolid, erythromycin, and doxycycline.
When you are given medication from your Doctor, it’s important to ask about how alcohol with the antibiotic can affect your health and it is also important to ask how long it will be before you are allowed to drink again. Some Doctors depending on the medication you have been given will explain not to drink alcohol for at least 72 hours after finishing the course of the antibiotics.
So, if you have been given antibiotics and have asked yourself Can I Drink Alcohol with Antibiotics, I hope I have answered your question.
You can tell we have officially started the summer holidays here in the UK, as the streets are so much quieter in the suburbs of London; however, Central London is absolutely heaving with tourists!
During this time I see a lot of clients who fly in from all over the world for many different reasons, from anxiety, stress to drinking less alcohol. Although I treat just as many people over Skype, Face Time and the phone too.
There are two camps of thinking about drinking whilst the weather is warmer. The first camp is ‘I want to deal with my drinking issue now as I don’t want to start September feeling awful about myself.’ The second camp is, ‘I’ll wait for the summer to be over before I think about learning to drink less.’
Either strategy is fine of course; however, those who do decide to learn how to drink less now, during this summer time, tell me some amazing stories.
One client has just come back from a week in Italy. She said for the first time in her life she drank ‘guilt free’ which meant she wasn’t beating herself up and the net effect?…..she didn’t feel the need to over-drink because she was calmer and actually enjoying herself more.
I can’t tell you how many clients beat themselves up over their drinking during their holiday time and cause themselves so much grief over the whole drinking drama. They spoil their holiday time and some clients say that they don’t know why they bother because it ends up being the holiday from hell.
I ask my clients why would you want to do that to yourself when you could embrace this opportunity from a very different perspective?
So, those who are thinking about their holiday time with anxiety and fear about drinking too much and spoiling it with unhelpful thinking, logon to the program and try the first day for free. Remember there is a 60-day money back guarantee, so if you really don’t think my approach is for you, then you have nothing to lose.
Motherhood on one hand brings so much joy but on the other so much fear, questioning and self doubt.
Even for the most confident person before becoming a mum after, it can be a very different story. I think a lot of women assume as long as their child is healthy and happy then they have done a good job as a parent, and I would not disagree with that. However, this can be to the detriment of the emotional wellbeing of the mother.
For many mothers, being at home with young children, albeit they are happy being a mum, find it restrictive, isolating and often there is a sense of a disconnection to their old life. Anxieties and self questioning of self is common and self esteem issues can become a problem.
One of the ways many mothers deal with all of these emotions is to drink alcohol. Many mothers see it as an opportunity to relax and unwind at the end of a demanding day.
It is also an opportunity to be ‘more adult’ and have some space from being a responsible sober mum.
So many of my mum clients say; ‘It’s like the bell rings as soon as the kids have gone to bed and it becomes my wine time. But now instead of a few wines I am drinking a bottle and I am feeling really guilty about it.’
There are women all over the world who are secretly worried about their drinking but just don’t know how to cut back.
The reason why I created The Drink Less Mind programme was because a large section of my client base are mum’s and I could see that their drinking issues albeit not concerning from my experience, they were concerned and ironically makes people drink more. Guilty drinking creates more guilty drinking and then the vicious cycle of habitual unhelpful drinking can occur.
I believe it is the thinking before the drinking that causes the problem and for many mothers, unbeknown to them their drinking spirals and they feel ashamed of who they feel they have become.
So I would like to share with you why I believe unhelpful drinking is a habit that you can unlearn. I am trained in an amazing psychology theory that I believe is the most clear explanation of why mum’s get themselves into some tricky drinking situations.
This theory believes we are all made up of many parts, like sub personalities within that make up a whole person. There are unbeknown to many people a particular personality trait that challenges our self-esteem. I call it The Inner Critic part. It is the part that says ‘Everybody else is a better mother than you’ or ‘You don’t cope as well as other mothers do’. Another typical comment is ‘You are so boring now you are a mum, you don’t have anything interesting to say and people are not interested in spending time with you.’ A classic Inner Critic comment for many mums is ‘You haven’t lost your baby weight, everybody thinks you are fat and have no self respect in your appearance.’ The list goes on and on and on.
For many mothers The Inner Critic can be so powerful that it leads to more self loathing and a way to retreat out of this negativity is to overeat or drink lots of wine to escape its negativity. This can lead to spiralling out of control feelings of hopelessness and failure.
I call this emotional state ‘The Radio Crazy Syndrome.’ You literally think you are going mad!
The good news is you are not going mad. It is just become a way of thinking because you have been exposed to high levels of vulnerability. And when this happens, The Inner Critic can take over.
The neuroscientists of this world have studied the brain when we are in a negative state, which is what I call The Inner Critic state. What they discovered are very clear neural pathways that light up in the exact same area every time we feel vulnerable. This part of the brain is called The Amygdala. So when The Inner Critic fires up it’s unhelpful conversation with you, the Amygdala lights up, and will immediately produce stress chemicals such as cortisol and adrenaline to spread through your entire body. This mind/body reaction is what you feel in a nano second when you feel emotionally unsafe.
Over a period of time, if you stay in this state long enough and deeply enough, you can start to think this is how life is meant to be. It can lead to anxiety, depression and a sense of being less than the rest of the world.
The good news is that the Neuroscientists also discovered that when we think good thoughts and experience positive feelings such as safety, love and laughter another part of the brain lights up which is called The Pre-Frontal Cortex. It is interestingly in the middle of the forehead, that some spiritual people would refer to as the ‘Third Eye’.
The Pre-Frontal Cortex produces good chemicals such as endorphins that enhance our sense of emotional and physical wellbeing.
Through my special work I help people train their brain literally to tune out of the Inner Critic, so they don’t need to drink to escape this unhelpful voice and connect with the Intuitive Healthy Confident part. This part is directly related to The Pre-Frontal Cortex.
It doesn’t matter where you have been with alcohol, you have an amazing mind that can learn anything. All you need to do is give yourself permission to start to learn to think differently about you.
Creating healthier coping strategies is something we need to learn. Often through the most joyous times such as becoming a mother we forget about ourselves and lose our confidence, so if you would like to learn more about how to gain more self worth, eat less, drink less or be more calm log onto www.georgiafoster.com
This is a question I have been asked by the clients I have helped with alcohol issues every day of my life for over twenty two years.
The men and women who buy my on-line program ‘7 Days To Drink Less’ do so because they secretly hope they can learn to drink less. Often this hope is accompanied by a niggling thought that they should stop drinking all together.
Those who face the dilemma of how to drink less alcohol may also question whether reducing alcohol consumption is possible and the answer is a resounding ‘yes.’
The secret is you have to learn to change your thinking before you drink. You may ask how this is possible when you have tried to control your drinking in the past without success.
If you have tried to consciously to stop drinking or reduce your alcohol consumption with limited success, it simply means the emotional part of your unconscious mind doesn’t understand what you want to achieve.
The unconscious mind is where all your emotional habits are stored and one of its most important goals is to protect you against feeling vulnerable. Here are a few of the varying reasons why you may be using alcohol to cope with life. Are you using alcohol as a tool to feel better about your self or to de-stress and relax? Or are you drinking to entertain yourself when you are bored or do you use it to help you sleep? If you can relate to any of these reasons then they may be part of your drinking pattern and if so then your unconscious mind will continue to respond this way.
If your conscious mind and your unconscious mind have differing opinions about how to deal with life, then the unconscious mind will always win the argument. Hence when people say they don’t have any willpower to drink less then the good news is it has nothing to do with willpower. However, it has everything to do with the unhelpful alcohol coping strategies you have unconsciously developed which have become habitual. If you are pent up and angry then drinking alcohol may become your unconscious way of dealing with or dampening down these emotions. Or you may feel anxious about a social occasion and need a sneaky drink to bolster your confidence.
This is where the health benefits of hypnosis step in as it assists you in your desire to stop drinking or to reduce alcohol consumption. Hypnosis is a beneficial tool, which can help you succeed with your goal to drink less.
Some people may feel hesitant about experiencing hypnosis but I can assure you it is one of the most successful and easiest ways to make emotional changes. The most successful sports people in the world use hypnosis because it is a quick and comfortable way to improve their thinking strategies.
Some of my clients express concern about whether they are alcoholics or are worried about their binge drinking. These men and women are often anxious people. Anxiety is a fundamental aspect of why so many people find it hard to cut back on their drinking. They want to reduce their drinking but are fearful they won’t be able to stop drinking once they have that first glass. This fear can lead from drinking the first glass or two, to three or more. Then they fret that their internal button to stop drinking isn’t there. So even before they have their first drink they are feeling scared and worried they will drink too much. This then causes the vicious cycle of being scared to drink and then drinking to run away from this terrible fear. This drinking anxiety is a battle between the conscious and the unconscious mind, which can be extremely emotionally painful.
‘The 7 Days To Drink Less’ is beneficial in assisting in the reduction of alcohol consumption because it helps you understand how your unconscious mind often plays with your conscious mind. And the best part is all you need to do is relax and enjoy the journey to a healthier and happier you.
Hypnosis calms both your mind and body, and allows your conscious mind to drift then as this happens your unconscious mind becomes more open to changing its learnt behavioral patterns and emotional responses.
‘The 7 Days to Drink Less’ is made up of 10 powerful hypnotic recordings in combination with life changing psychology technique called Inner Dialogue. These amazing techniques can help you to drink less by alleviating your fears, whether it is the need to stop drinking or simply to cut back on your alcohol consumption.
The first day is free. So sign up now and you’ll be on your way to drinking less and discovering a healthier, happier, confident and positive you.
When women are trying to get pregnant, there is a mountain of information on what to eat, how to eat and what supplements to take to prepare the body for pregnancy, but what about support for the mind?
Women all around the world, who are trying to conceive, know exactly what to eat and how to look after their body. In fact, they have mastered it, in the hope that they have done absolutely everything they can to increase their chances.
However, many find themselves feeling isolated and emotionally anxious because they just can’t understand why they cannot get pregnant, when their friends are.
It’s easy for others to say ‘it will happen when you forget about it’ and I always say that is a big feat to someone who is desperate to be a parent. I find it can also be insulting too.
I know myself, after trying to conceive in my 40’s, the boom doom gloom the IVF doctors kept banging on about. It could have been devastating if I believed them, but keeping myself sane and trusting in my own body and mind, stopped me from absorbing all this negativity.
That is why I specialise in fertility and helping you with a fertile mind – because I get it! I walk my talk and know that during this challenging time you need as much emotional support as possible to keep you strong!
The mind manages the bodily functions without much conscious awareness. When women feel anxious and fearful about life, the bloodstream goes first, to the important organs such as heart and lungs, in preparation for something we may need to run from. And guess where it goes to last? The womb. Why? It’s a very primitive mechanism that the brain implements when there is a presumed unhealthy environment to conceive. You could liken this to when an animal knows that a drought is about to occur. It has been proven that the animal’s reproductive system shuts down so the female species can try and survive without trying to look after little ones.
Human beings have the same instinctive receptors, so if a woman is worried about getting pregnant she maybe emotionally unconsciously restricting her chances. One could argue then, why are babies born in emotionally abusive situations and yes, I would agree. But why not make the chances of pregnancy even better by looking after the emotional aspect too – not just the body.
It doesn’t matter the history of or the issues with fertility, that is the past. However, this is part of the problem. When someone is trying to get pregnant, the mind can use the fertility history or unhelpful evidence to suggest that it might not or will not happen!
Nobody knows the future so when these unhelpful references are there, it’s no surprise women can become fearful about their ability to get pregnant and self doubt can creep in.
However, the mind can learn to prepare for the future by creating healthier references that reflect outcomes that have nothing to do with past fertility issues.
In other words, the history of fertility moments cannot forecast the future. The good news is, with particular mind tools training, women trying to conceive, whether naturally or with medical intervention, can start to shift their thinking into a healthier and more optimistic state.
I am not suggesting for one moment that going through IVF will be a breeze but what I am suggesting is a little bit of hope, trust and seeing the future positively will help calm the mind, which then calms the body. It’s a win/win situation.
So you may be asking now if I did get pregnant? The answer yes, I have triplet boys Ollie, Finn and Hugh now 3 years of age. The doctor’s didn’t believe I could do it but I did! Having a fertile mind helps.
Women who cut down on their alcohol intake by two glasses of wine a week could save that money and pay for a holiday for two says Georgia Foster, an Alcohol Reduction Expert. The expert who helps people to cut down on their drinking with her 7 Days To Drink Less Program has said that not only will women be able to save money; they will feel healthier by reducing their alcohol intake.
With the stress of long working hours, economic problems, and busy day-to-day lives, a lot of women are drinking more than the recommended amount in the USA. That can lead to serious health problems and even financial problems.
One woman who has launched a program to help women to drink less and achieve better health is World Renowned Alcohol Reduction Expert Georgia Foster. The expert who is often seen in the media and works all over the world believes women should look at reducing their alcohol intake in a new light. She says ‘if women cut down on their drinking by two glasses of wine a week, they could afford a romantic holiday with their loved one after 52 weeks.’
The Alcohol Reduction Expert has said for many years now people have been told to cut down on their drinking for health reasons, and although it’s important to cut down for better health, many women are bored with being dictated to.
According to Georgia Foster, women need a real incentive to cut down on their drinking, and by showing women if they cut down by two drinks a week, they could afford a romantic break, which could be the incentive they need.
Georgia Foster, who is author and hypnotherapist expert, helps women all over the world reduce their alcohol intake with her 7 Days To Drink Less program. The program allows people who understand they drink too much but struggle to cut down, achieve their goals.
She said: “A lot of people who drink more than they should do so due the stress of modern life understand they should cut down for better health, but they need an incentive. By allowing them to work out the cost of two drinks a week, and how much they would save over 52 weeks, it would allow them to see they could pay for a romantic break with their loved one. As well as showing them they will save money, it’s also a way to encourage them to cut down on drinking for a healthier lifestyle.”
The proven 7 Days To Drink Less program has received worldwide media attention due to its success rate in helping men and women reduce their alcohol intake. By reducing the amount people drink, they will have better control over their lives while feeling healthier.
Get Back On Top of Your Life! Knock Alcohol and Anxiety
I had an American client some years ago, who came to see me about her drinking. She was and still is a very high profile board member of an international corporation. As she spent a lot of time in London, she said she had become accustomed to the British drinking culture and felt concerned that her one bottle of wine a night was starting to creep up to open up the second bottle and drinking half of that too.
Her life in New York was pretty similar, where her ‘Sex in the City’ lifestyle was, she felt, starting to catch up with her. So by the time she came to see me she was in a very negative state.
Whenever she was in London she would book an appointment. On her last appointment she told me how she was really enjoying having alcohol free days more often. She said her self esteem had dramatically improved, however the one thing that she recognised is that she drank because she was anxious.
As I have always said drinking can mask anxiety until you wake in the morning and it can come back to bite you! Alcohol and anxiety do not mix.
However, as my client had successfully reduced her drinking, this got her thinking that she wanted to work on what drove the anxiety.
There was something she said that has ‘forever resonated with me which I would like to share with you’.
She said that in Britain we have a pub on every corner, in America we have a pharmacy on ever corner! She then went on to say that most of her friends were not big drinkers but most of them were on some sort of anti-depressant to alleviate anxiety and general low self worth.
So my point is that we are all susceptible to anxiety and how we deal with it culturally can be different but I can assure you that alcohol and medication are both great ways to escape fears and self doubts about life.
Some would suggest medication is socially more acceptable because it is easier to mask but I think that what is key to anxiety is understanding the thinking behind it before it takes hold and becomes a habit.
As I always say it’s the thinking that drives people to do things in a repetitive way such as medication, alcohol, sleep and often just good old depression.
The problem is we i.e. Americans, British, Australians, people from all over the world suffer from challenging thoughts and we must start to communicate these fears before addictive behaviour takes hold.
We need to hold our heads high and acknowledge that life can be an absolute nightmare sometimes but if we share our negative thinking and fears it really does help.
Anxiety is a curse for many people and can become a way of thinking and life but it shouldn’t be.