Avoid unconscious drinking. This is what people tend to do when cooking for example or responding to emails at night etc. Try and sit down and really savour the taste of what you are drinking and therefore enjoy it rather than forget it is there and be surprised that the whole glass or bottle is gone!
Hold your drink in your less dominant hand – believe it or not,this slows down your consumption of alcohol
DOWO – Drink One, Water One – Alternate drinking alcohol with water
Stick to your usual tipple of choice, give the shots, cocktails and punches a miss. They can be lethal and hard to tell how much alcohol is in them.
Don’t drink to please others. Have the confidence to stick to your guns and if you need to tell a little white lie to back that up, then tell people you have a ‘cracking hangover’ from last night so you are taking it easy tonight or you are on antibiotics!
Finish each drink before you have a top up so you can gauge how much you are drinking.
See the festive season as a time when we all tend to drink more than normal and that is okay, so be kind to yourself and realise it’s just a silly season!
When Katie was in her mid 50’s she came to the conclusion that having a committed and loving relationship just wasn’t ever going to happen.
Sadly, Katie is by no means alone in this belief. There are women all over Australia who have been looking for a life partner and feel very let down by the society we now live in.
Things have changed a lot in the last 25 years. Many blame the Internet. Some blame women having careers and some blame independence and women wanting it all. The jury is out as far as I am concerned.
It’s tricky to understand why there has been a surge in single women but I do know one thing that inhibits anyone finding love; it’s their thinking.
Katie’s first love broke her heart at 18 when he dumped her for one of her University friends. It took her a while to get over this trauma and then when she hit 29 she panicked and thought she had to get married because everyone else was settling down too.
Katie met Adrian and they decided it was a good idea to get married, which they did pretty quickly and it wasn’t long after they had twin girls. The marriage wasn’t great and Adrian was a highly critical man, which made Katie feel that she was never good enough. He used to compare her to other woman all the time and put her down a lot. However, like many unhappy couples they decided to stay together for the sake of their daughters.
Then one day Adrian came home and told Katie he didn’t love her and never had loved her and that he had found true love with someone else and wanted to separate.
Although, at first, Katie was shocked at this, she deep down knew he was right, that they shouldn’t be together, so the good news was it was an amicable break up. However, what plagued Katie was anger! She was angry that she married someone she didn’t truly love for the sake of keeping in with society and ‘what she thought was expected of her.’ Although she loved her daughters, she felt she had missed out on finding her ‘true love’ and that it was too late for her.
A friend suggested Katie start internet dating, and with a bit of hesitation but a deep sense of hope, she took her friends advice to go into this mine field of the mid-life dating scene. Sadly, this caused her more anguish because there was a general theme with the men she chose to have a date with – they may have looked different but underpinning was a slight critical eye of what she wore, what she ate and how she spoke, which rang alarm bells.
Katie asked herself “Why do I keep attracting the same type of guy who makes me feel bad about myself and not good enough for them?’
This is a common issue with many women looking for love.
What Katie didn’t realise is that her mind, like everyone else’s, works on memory and how love and vulnerability has been dealt within her past. This is key to why a healthy relationship seems elusive to so many women. Their mind has created an unhelpful, protective mechanism.
What is familiar in love can become a habit
The mind is lazy and likes things to be familiar, even when it is to the detriment of someone’s emotional wellbeing.
Unbeknown to Katie, through her past negative love experiences, her mind started looking for a relationship that was similar to the ones she had. Not because she wanted to be hurt and rejected again but because it was all her mind knew and it was deemed ‘normal’. These were the only references she had which her mind used to guide her on her mission to find a loving committed relationship.
This affected her self esteem and her sense of finding love started to become more and more anxiety based, rather than trusting.
Katie’s mind had literally trained her to avoid any potentially healthy love partners because the brain scanned her relationship history and said ‘don’t go there, you don’t have any evidence a loving relationship will work. Go for the type of man you know rather than don’t.’
This is the irony of the unconscious mind which is where all emotional habits are stored. It works on history and emotional habit, whether helpful or not.
In order for Katie to learn a healthy love mind set, she needed to let this part of her mind understand that having a healthy and happy relationship is nothing to do with her past. She needed to build new references of feeling safe, loved and desired without criticism.
How to become familiar with a healthy loving relationship
One of the easiest ways to do this is use the clever part of the mind through hypnosis. To literally re-train the brain to become comfortable and familiar with healthy, loving men who have integrity now and in the future, irrespective of someone’s unhelpful love history.
The neuro-scientists have confirmed that irrespective of what people believe the brain is pliable and adaptable to emotional change irrespective of someone’s past. In other words, you can teach an old dog new tricks!
The neuro-scientists have also confirmed that hypnosis is the fastest and most effective method of creating emotional change.
Like Katie, creating new patterns of thought about love and finding the right partner who is intuitively good for you is possible and absolutely accessible.
Cracking The Love Code is a powerful on-line programme that trains the brain to create healthy love thoughts and feelings that support the conscious desire to find a relationship.
Georgia Foster specialises in helping women change their thinking about love and relationships. Her highly successful program called Cracking The Love Code is here for you to purchase. She also has a sample day for you to try first.
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Just to let you know when you see an email in your inbox from me titled Hypno News, this is where I will discuss topics, top tips, success stories, new products and more!
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Sometimes when life just gets crazy challenging we forget that while in a frenzied state it is difficult to see life logically and realistically.
Many men and women forget they have incredible resources within.
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‘Some days you have to create your own sunshine!’
The truth is, while anxious and fearful, decision making can be difficult. Whereas being in an intuitive state,decisions are easier. So use this recording as a reminder about how amazing you are even on those challenging days. Create sunshine within you with this recording.
As the Dalai Lama says “If people meditated just for 25 minutes a day, the world would be a better place.” This recording is meditation. Hypnosis has the same brain wave activity as meditation. The only difference is, I do all the talking. So you can focus or just drift or a little bit of both. Just remember to be stationary throughout the recording so you can relax and enjoy.
Menopause (Men can skip this part)
I’m am officially in menopause, which I have to say has been a struggle for me for many reasons, which I will talk about in the next Hypno News. I recently met an incredibly inspiring woman who I am going to introduce you to very soon. I am doing her program and loving it! So I will report back asap.
The Weight Less Mind
I believe the emotional drivers to overeating are the issue, not food and weight itself. Many men and women tell me their stories about being unhappy about their relationship with food and how they would like to change it.
So just to let you knowI’ve been working on brand new content for The Weight Less Mind which will be available for FREE toeveryone who has already purchased this product. So a complete update for you. I am also including a new video series and lots of new recordings. So watch this space.
For those who would like to purchase this updated product, bear with me. I’ll have it ready next week for you with a special launch price!
Statistics on USA drinking habits in the construction industry
I was recently approached by a large building company based in the US to discuss an in-house program for their staff about alcohol reduction. This is what I discovered:
1 in 5 workers reported being injured or put in harm’s way because of a co-worker drinking or had to redo work, and cover for a co-worker because of drinking
According to the National Highway Traffic and Safety Administration, Driving Under the Influence (DUI) cost the US $44Bn each year in higher insurance rates, higher taxes, medical claims and property damage
The cost of alcohol misuse costs companies $179 billion each year and it is rising!
I’m newly sober and dog-paddling through the booze all around me. It’s summer, and Whole Foods has planted rosé throughout the store. Rosé is great with fish! And strawberries! And vegan protein powder! (Okay, I made that last one up.) At the office, every desk near mine has a bottle of wine or liquor on it in case people are too lazy to walk the 50 feet to one of the well-stocked communal bars we’ve built on our floor. Driving home from work, I pass billboard ads for Fluffed Marshmallow Smirnoff and Iced Cake Smirnoff and not just Cinnamon, but Cinnamon ChurrosSmirnoff. A local pharmacy, the same one that fucks up my prescription three months in a row, installs self-service beer taps and young men line up with their empty growlers all the way back to Eye & Ear Care.
Traveling for work, I steel myself for the company-sponsored wine tasting. Skipping it is not an option. My plan is to work the room with my soda and lime, make sure I’m seen by the five people who care about these things, and leave before things get sloppy (which they always do). Six wines and four beers are on display at the catering stand. I ask for club soda and get a blank look. Just water, then? The bartender grimaces apologetically. “I think there’s a water fountain in the lobby?” she says.
There is. But it’s broken. I mingle empty-handed for 15 minutes, fending off well-meaning offers to get me something from the bar. After the fifth, I realize I’m going to cry if one more person offers me alcohol. I leave and cry anyway. Later I order vanilla ice cream from room service to cheer myself up.
“People love this with a shot of bourbon poured over it,” the person taking my order says. “Any interest in treating yourself?”
That’s the summer I realize that everyone around me is tanked. But it also dawns on me that the women are super double tanked — that to be a modern, urbane woman means to be a serious drinker. This isn’t a new idea — just ask the Sex and the City girls (or the flappers). A woman with a single malt scotch is bold and discerning and might fire you from her life if you fuck with her. A woman with a PBR is a Cool Girl who will not be shamed for belching. A woman drinking MommyJuice wine is saying she’s more than the unpaid labor she gave birth to. The things women drink are signifiers for free time and self-care and conversation — you know, luxuries we can’t afford. How did you not see this before? I ask myself. You were too hammered, I answer back. That summer I see, though. I see that booze is the oil in our motors, the thing that keeps us purring when we should be making other kinds of noise
One day that summer I’m wearing unwise (but cute, so cute) shoes and trip at the farmer’s market, cracking my phone, blood-staining the knees of my favorite jeans, and scraping both my palms. Naturally, I post about it on Facebook as soon as I’ve dusted myself off. Three women who don’t know I’m sober comment quickly:
“Do they sell wine there?”
“Definitely wine. And maybe new shoes.”
Have I mentioned that it’s morning when this happens? On a weekday? This isn’t one of those nightclub farmer’s markets. And the women aren’t the kind of beleaguered, downtrodden creatures you imagine drinking to get through the day. They’re pretty cool chicks, the kind people ridicule for having First World Problems. Why do they need to drink?
Well, maybe because even cool chicks are still women. And there’s no easy way to be a woman, because, as you may have noticed, there’s no acceptable way to be a woman. And if there’s no acceptable way to be the thing you are, then maybe you drink a little. Or a lot.
The year before I get sober, I’m asked to be The Woman on a panel at the company where I work. (That was literally the pitch: “We need one woman.”) Three guys and me, talking to summer interns about company culture. There are two female interns in the audience, and when it’s time for questions, one says:
“I’ve heard this can be a tough place for women to succeed. Can you talk about what it’s been like for you?”
As The Woman, I assume for some reason that the question is directed at me. “If you’re tough and persistent and thick-skinned, you’ll find your way,” I say. “I have.”
I don’t say she’ll have to work around interruptions and invisibility and micro-aggressions and a scarcity of role models and a lifetime of her own conditioning. My job on this panel is to make this place sound good, so I leave some stuff out. Particularly the fact that I’m drinking at least one bottle of wine a night to dissolve the day off of me.
But she’s a woman. She probably learned to read between the lines before she could read the lines themselves. She thanks me and sits down.
“I disagree,” says the guy sitting next to me. “I think this is a great company for women.”
My jaw gently opens on its own.
The guy next to him nods. “Absolutely,” he said. “I have two women on my team and they get along great with everyone.”
Of course they do, I think but don’t say. It’s called camouflage.
Guy #1 continues. “There’s a woman on my team who had a baby last year. She went on maternity leave and came back, and she’s doing fine. We’re very supportive of moms.”
Guy #3 jumps in just to make sure we have 100% male coverage on the topic. “The thing about this place,” he says, “is it’s a meritocracy. And merit is gender-blind.” He smiles at me and I stare back. Silent balefulness is all I have to offer, but his smile wavers so I know I’ve pierced some level of smug.
The panel organizer and I fume afterward. “Those fucking fucks,” she says. “Ratfucks.”